Monday, September 12, 2016

Behind The Scenes of Being a Technician

I've been thinking a lot about this post and trying to figure out the best way to express how I feel at times when I think about where we are right now as an activity. I have found over the years that tough conversations in our pageantry world often offend and anger people, when the status quo is challenged. In our activity, you have to be careful when you say anything negative about a color guard or drum corps, without someone's sensibilities taking offense as if we had killed their puppy. There are people who are afraid to talk openly about our national organizations for fear of retribution...as if they were the mafia and would leave an old bloody guard uniform in your bed as a symbol to shut you up. There is an absurdity to it all at times that shuts dialog down, but to me...I'm not afraid of uncomfortable dialog. In fact, uncomfortable dialog is what keeps us moving forward as a species.

So here's the thing. Have you ever noticed how we as a collective whole promote, celebrate, compensate and applaud the design aspect of our activity over the technical side? I've written about this numerous times, but I believe the conversation needs to be taken to the next level, because to be honest I'm kind of pissed off. It's the time of year when grand staff announcements are made, like it's the NCAA at the end of a football season. Who will be writing their show? Who will be arranging their music? Who are their choreographers? Did you hear that such and such is leaving this place and going to that place? Oh my God! Let's all stop the rotation of the earth and acknowledge the designers and arrangers as they move from place to place or lend their name to a program. And you know what? It's fine, because I get it. You cannot clean a show that has not been written. You cannot play music when notes have not been put to the page. When a movie is announced in Hollywood and you watch the trailer in the theater, it's not the camera operator that is announced; it's the director, the producer, the actors. I mean, you never hear the phrase, "From the camera operator of Titanic comes another epic water adventure." It just doesn't happen, because no one gives a rats ass who the camera operator of Titanic was, but he/she was there. So I get it. When Cameron Mackintosh lends his talent and name to a play, no one cares at that point who is sewing the costumes or who is the vocal coach for the artists. We only care that the guy who created Les Miserables is involved with another project.

So what do we do? Let's first start by acknowledging that this isn't Hollywood and none of us are Cameron Mackintosh. Let's also acknowledge that even the best of the best in Hollywood have duds. I enjoy Woody Allen movies, but I find that over half of them have the same feel, themes, and concepts. Sometimes I feel like these directors recreate the same films over and over with just different actors. Yet, there we go buying our ticket and spending money, because our favorite directors and actors have signed on to a new movie. I remember back in 2000, when it was announced that Sally Field would be in a new film. It was called, Places in the Heart. I was excited, because I just love her. She was given top billing at the time and in the end, her part was a minor role in a bad movie, that basically seemed like a two hour advertisement for WalMart.

In the pageantry arts, we await the start of each new season to see which designer has created what production. Many of the shows end up being recreations, rip offs, and sometimes out right plagiarism of something they have done in the past or something someone else has created from a different genre of art. Often times choreography for color guard ends up being a regurgitation of the same phrases, tosses, body rolls, and dance moves repackaged for a new season. Sebastienne St. Jacque has become somewhat of an icon of our activity as having created an online persona of a really bad designer and color guard director of the worst color guard in the activity. His Facebook posts make light of what is often taken very seriously and is able to put a mirror in front of our faces of the absurdity, so we don't lose sight of who we have become and where we have come from. His role is important as angry as he can make us sometimes, because he doesn't let us forget how ridiculous we all can act.

So what is it like to be a technician of these shows and of these designs? It isn't really talked about is it? Rarely is there a grand announcement of the newest flag tech to join the hottest winter guard or the visual tech who joined some top 12 drum corps. Those people are there, though. Many are great technicians, who deserve more than a pat on the back at the end of the season. Many are not great and they serve as filler staff while the grown ups discuss next steps. That's a reality, too. Just like designers and choreographers, we have good technicians and we have not so good technicians. Even the good ones though, struggle to stand out in front of name recognition and the money that should be demanded of through the role they play. We are discussing this more and more as an activity, because we are finding that training at the lower levels and the perfect execution of a phrase is becoming harder and harder to find, as we continue to push the design envelope.

So what is it like to be one of the good ones? What is it we do that deserves top billing?

In today's new world of the additional responsibility of synergistic choreography, we are finding new ways to train. We are figuring out new ways to condition the muscle groups so success is guaranteed. We are having to relearn how to clean phrases through the new exploration of wraps and rolls. We are rethinking how to discuss character and role development with the performers, in shows that don't always make sense, while new technology of sound and lighting come to the forefront. We look to add effort changes into phrases that were watered out by the kids,  in their desperate attempts to learn work that didn't even exist 5 years ago. We are the extra set of eyes you may need to help you figure out a difficult moment. We are there to push the kids beyond what they ever thought possible.

So what is a good technician not?

We are not the coffee runners. We are not grunts to fill time in between days when the design team is not there. We are not just a flag tech or foot tech. We are not the punching bag of the ego's of the activity when the show doesn't turn out the way it should have. We are not bitches when the heat of cleaning gets turned up. We are not void of creative thought and ideas. We are not to be lectured to as if we were a performer in the guard. We are not to be told what the show will be, but offered a voice in the process based on the role we play within the staff ensemble.

Have you ever been a part of these scenarios?

The Interminable Task of the Counts 

Tech: "When does this toss release?
Performer 1: "Count 5."
Performer 2: "No. Count 5&"
Performer 3: "I think he said it's 6."
Tech: "You mean he didn't tell you when it releases?"
Performer 4: "We were told when the note hits its peak"
Tech: "Shit. Seriously? Alright then. Make it 6."

Two weeks later.

Choreographer: "Why is the toss going up on 6? It goes up on 4& when the peak of the music goes, "AHHHHHHHHHH!" (Storms off in fit of toddleresque temper tantrum)
Tech: "Fine. Make it 4&" (Secretly knows that by the end of the season it will be count 5, but says to herself, "whatever.")

Design Meetings

In a perfect world, all key staff would be involved in design meetings, but we don't live in a perfect world and more often than not, technicians are left out of the design process. It's actually rather foolish to be honest, because a technician is the person or people who will often be placed on the front lines of bringing the production to life. Hearing their thoughts on how they believe the performers will respond to a particular piece of music or the training that will go into bringing that music to life is crucial in the process of becoming successful. Here's another thing. Technicians aren't idiots. They too are creative and have ideas. We listen to music and envision effects and ideas. It's just not our expertise to bring that idea to life in a pageantry sort of way, but just because it isn't our expertise, doesn't mean the idea isn't a good one. It doesn't mean that a technician can't look at a storyboard and realize when the story doesn't make sense. A good technician must be creative, because it is their creativity that oftentimes allows them to add efforts into phrases that were left out or fix drill that ended up not looking as good as the design team thought it would. The chief technicians need a seat at the table, because playing devils advocate should be part of their job and it helps them understand the original vision as they clean throughout the season. When the vision isn't clear, then the cleaning process becomes very difficult and often the show ideas become bastardized.

How about this for a conversation?

Designer: "At this point in the show we are going to introduce the sabre line in the back corner stage right, while the rifles enter stage left 8 counts later."
Tech: "Are you sure that won't pull focus?"
Designer: "Of course not. This is why they are entering 8 counts later. Don't you hear the ding off in the distance in the music?" (Designer says in a condescending voice)
Tech: No. I really don't hear the ding in the music.
Designer: Well you will in the arena.
Tech: Ummm. o.k. I guess. I still think it will pull focus.

Two months later at some show in the middle of nowhere:

Judge: "The rifles pull focus from the sabres when they enter stage left."
Designer: "You know, I see what you are saying there. We'll look at it."
(Eye roll from the technical staff standing behind the design staff sitting at the critique table)

These things happen! They happen all the damn time. 

A personal favorite of mine is this conversation.

Choreographer: "I sent a video of the show to such and such and they said we need to look at the choreography of the flag feature. It doesn't have the impact it should."
Tech: "Ummmm....yeah. I believe I said that a month ago, but o.k."

As a technician, I accept my role of bringing the vision of the design team to life. As a writer, I know what it's like to have a vision of a story and the struggle I put into each paragraph, so the characters or the idea comes to life the way I want it to. I don't let anyone read anything I write, before the idea is correct on the paper. Before I even write these little blog posts I conduct research, check to see if anything is inadvertently plagiarized, and I have a cheat sheet where I identify mood, tone, key points, character names, and other pertinent information that helps me bring the idea to life. So I know what it's like to create something and have others I trust critique it. I've had people say they hate something I've written and I've sent articles to magazines and publishers just to have them rejected without even being read. It's hard, but having others read what I write before the story goes live is crucial to the success I hope to have one day. It would only make sense that the design of a show takes the same approach. You have to trust your technicians, because if you don't, then what are they there for?

The post I'm writing about comes from years of working with multiple designers and being on the receiving end of cleaning something incorrectly, challenging a thought, or flat out saying I don't like something. I've been yelled at, kicked out of the gym, and flat out told that when the design is finished then I can have an opinion. I'm not the only one either. These stories in the activity are very common, but even with the abuse and lack of recognition we continue to work to bring that designers vision to life. We know that when the staff announcements are made, that it's the designers and choreographers that get top billing. Yet, we show up to the gym to place counts on choreography that we ultimately won't get credit for, even if we have to change that choreography to make it fit the staging or music better. We know that a designer is getting the majority of what is allocated for the staff budget, as rarely do technicians see the bulk of the staff pay line item. Rarely is there money set aside for good technicians to be flown in to help a guard fix the bullshit of crap that has become of a show in March.  Designers and choreographers are flown all over the country to design shows in the beginning of a season, but it's often the end that matters and who is there in the end? It's the day to day technicians trying to undo in October, what should have been done in August.

We celebrate and compensate the designers of the activity. It happens all the time and in ways people don't even realize. It happens in critique when judges ask, "Who wrote that show?" It happens behind the scenes when a director asks, "Who are we going to get to design the show?" It happens in the stands when someone says, "Oh look at what such and such did this year." Have you ever thought what it would sound like if a judge said, "That's a great show. Who is cleaning it?" What if from the field the audience witnessed a flawlessly executed phrase that brought the crowd to its feet and the first question was, "Who techs that color guard?"

That's not how it works though, anymore than when we watch a new Quentin Tarantino film and make a judgment on whether we like it or not. If we like it, we hail Mr. Tarantino as a genius and if we don't, we say, "Well...another flop." We don't blame the costume designer for the bad film...we blame him. There's one caveat to this argument, however. This isn't Hollywood where everyone is getting paid something, is unionized, and have contracts in place from the director to the caterer. At the end of a movie, the costume designer is mentioned in the rolling credits. There are even Oscars for those behind the scenes and although that awards ceremony takes place out of the public eye, they still exist. I was once told that when the show is bad it isn't my name that has to stand up and take responsibility. Well you know what I have to say to that? Maybe it should be. Maybe if we celebrated the technicians and cleaning staff like we do the design staff, then there isn't anyone who has to take the fall for anything, because in my scenario everyone wins together and everyone loses together. If we compensated technicians, then there would be more of an incentive for technicians to hone the craft of cleaning a show. If judges asked the questions of, "Who is the primary technician responsible for cleaning this...I want to talk to them," then we would start to grow a community of technicians who are brilliant at what they do...which is to make the vision of the design come to life.

A color guard, drum corps, or marching band is just a microcosm of the work environment and one of the number one reasons people don't stay at a job is because they don't have a voice. Money is rarely why they leave or why they stay. People leave their jobs because their passion in some way or another isn't being fulfilled through a lack of recognition in ideas or ability to grow that passion into what it is they truly love. The leave because ideas aren't utilized. They leave because credit isn't give where credit is deserved. Pageantry is no different than the workforce. As we move into the competitive marching band season and make the grand announcements for winter guard and drum corps, try to figure out a way to recognize the talent of those behind the scenes of the design. It will go a long way as we help to build the program...I promise.

Thursday, September 8, 2016

The Stonecutter and Color Guard

Do you ever think about analogies when you teach? I love analogies and the way you can take one lesson from another aspect of life and connect it to a current situation. Japanese philosophers do it all the time. Taoists will connect stories from thousands of years ago to a current situation to better make sense out of what seems nonsensical. There is a famous story about a stonecutter who is building a wealthy mans house. He longs to have the power and money of the wealthy man. He seeks to become that man and then realizes once he achieves it, he wants more. He wants more power and more money. He achieves it, but realizes that he still doesn't have all the power he desires. He wants to be the sun and then the clouds and then the wind. He wants to be the strongest and most powerful within all of the universe. One day he realizes that the most powerful force is stone and he wants to be stone. Nothing can move it. Stone withstands the forces of the elements. So that is what he becomes. He becomes a stone and see's that he is more powerful than even the wind. One day a man with a hammer cuts the stone in half to build a house. He is devastated, because he was once that stonecutter. He learns that within all of us is the power to find happiness with who we are and the circumstances of our environment and most importantly...what connects us to one another.

So why do I tell this story? What is the analogy? It's that time of year again. September is in full swing and that means that the first of a season of competitions is upon us. It's the time when we find out if all of our summer work mattered and if we ventured down the right path or the path filled with roadblocks and weeds. Some will leave September frustrated, while others will leave it confidently and prideful. There are some people who have already given up and are just waiting for the clock to tick by so they can start what they are really planning for, which is winter guard season. Some have been looking across the street and saying, "I want to be there instead of here." I want more performers. I want a better designer. I want more money. I want a better staff.  I want it to be winter guard season. I want this season to be over. I want it to be cooler. I want there to be less rain. I want. I want. I want. In the process of the "wanting" many of us lose what it is we have. We lose the present and the kids involved. Wanting something else is an easy trap to fall  prey to and a hole we all fall into at one point or another. Some people can't get out of the hole and they never will. They never see the daylight of the present, because there is always seems to be something better on the horizon.

I spent years of my guard career wanting more. I wanted to be seen standing at the top of the national stage and among the pageantry elite and within that, I often lost the present hoping for more. I became relentless at cleaning phrases and trying to prove that I was better than others. Now to me, that is how I thought you became part of the elite. Becoming relentless in your goals is how I thought the elite did it. There's a catch, though. Being relentless only works if you understand that you will only ever achieve your goals by not trying to achieve the goals of someone else. To stand among the elite, requires that you know there really isn't an elite. There are people who are better than others. There are people who make more money at this than others. There are people who sit on the Boards and who judge the shows. There are people who wear the medals and collect the trophies, but none of them are the elite, because it simply doesn't exist in the way we want to believe it does. It is simply a game that cannot be won.

I know guard instructors who believe that the better they costume their guard, the better they will be and the higher they will score. There are people who think that because a name is attached to their program, then the better their kids will become. Then there are the people who think they don't have the right type of kids to be successful. There are people that bitch about the parents and the lack of money. I have learned over time that no matter how my guard is dressed or who I teach with, it won't make the kids happy and doesn't necessarily make me happy. Names, medals, costumes, and fancy silks only look good on the surface to those who think you are better than them. Those things only look good to the people who don't realize what they have and in the end, all of those trinkets end up in boxes. Time passes and what we did with that time had nothing to do with the "what."

Teaching a color guard is a gift and within that gift is the ability to give it back to young people who have yet to unwrap the package of pageantry. It doesn't matter how much money we spend on the costume, because in the end it won't make us happy if we aren't living for who we are and what we have, which is today. All we have is today. We don't have next season and tomorrow isn't guaranteed. I think the happiest I ever was in the activity was with my very first high school guard and I didn't even realize it. It was 1994 and our fall budget for uniforms, silks, and poles was $500. That was it. The school was a Title One school and there was no more money for the show. With that $500 I learned how to find uniforms at the Goodwill and borrow silks from other bands. I learned how to paint flags and use old make up to bring out the costume. I knew that the guard was up against programs with more money and a better staff. The only thing I knew to do was keep cleaning. I needed to make them untouchable from a training and technical standpoint. At the age of 24, I knew that if I could make them spin and dance well, then we might have a shot at beating our competitors. We had nothing fancy to hide behind, so we had to be the cleanest and most visually stunning spinners in our class. Not one moment was taken for granted...not one transition...not one count. With my 13 kids, I spent every moment with them living in the present. I made them great. In the end, we won color guard and the effect caption at every marching band show we went to. That was when I learned that shiny toys don't make you great. Living for what you have and in the present is what makes the elite great. With that ragtag guard, I learned what made me great. It would take me another 15 years or so however, to start to appreciate the power that made me who I am.

Some of our greatest instructors in the activity have never worn a medal and they don't seek to attach their guards to big name designers or spend ungodly amounts of money on powerful consultants. They learn their craft. They read. They ask for help. They take the kids they have and they seek to know them. They don't look to the other side of the road at greener grass and they find the gold nuggets within the coalmines they work in. And you know something? They are perfectly happy. It isn't just instructors either. Judges do the same thing. Who are you judging? Where are you judging? What panel were you assigned? Are you "going in?" More. More. We all want more. To be where you are and value the road you are travelling is one of the hardest lessons those in our activity have yet to learn. 

As we start this competition season let us all remember one thing. Whether you have a guard of 45 or a guard of 5, each one of those kids deserve a guard staff who care, who live in the present, and who don't mind being the stonecutter. When you look back on this season, will you see someone that used their time wisely and prioritized that time or will you find a person that made excuses to avoid the lot they were given. Will you find a person who enjoyed buying costumes more than they did spending time with the kids? Will you find that you were the instructor who presented a facade by living in a past that didn't really exist or ruminated on a guard yet to be? Who will you be? It doesn't really matter I guess, because whether you have the ability to reflect on yourself or not, the kids you teach have already been doing it. One day when all the scores have been posted and all the medals have been put away, those kids will be grown and they will think about you and what you gave back to them and it won't be the costume or the show they will think about, it will be how you carved stone into art and made them feel great through the lessons of hard work, discipline, and love. Teach wisely my friend. 

Tuesday, August 16, 2016

You are a Colossal Bitch!

You are a Colossal Bitch!

That was the phrase said to me at a rehearsal once. I can still hear it. I can still see the rehearsal site. I remember every single detail of that day. It doesn't matter where or who, but that's what a color guard instructor said to me when I was perceived as not paying attention to the staff. The reality was that I was and am a perfectionist and already knew what my mistake was and was already beating myself up for the error. They saw it differently, when I rolled my eyes at what was really myself and what I interpreted as a stupid mistake. I was exasperated at the error and rolled my eyes. They thought I was being disrespectful toward them. 

This post is about how we talk to performers and how they perceive us and if we aren't careful, how our outer voice becomes their inner voice...for life. Today I see color guard members I taught in a number of places back in my twenties and almost want to beg for their forgiveness in how I ran rehearsals, spoke to them, and some of the things I made them do. I was young. I didn't have anyone telling me I was wrong and when you've spent a lifetime being told that you are too intense and a bitch, well...you tend to become that. Kids don't need to be coddled, but they certainly need to be encouraged and most definitely don't need to be berated. I don't think we do that enough as youth coaches. I know I don't. Sometimes I'm so caught up in getting the show finished or the phrase clean, that I forget that somewhere in count 8, are kids looking to me to lead them. They watch me and they hear me. 

The adolescent brain is not developed at the level the adult brain is and a teenage brain's perception is often based on emotion as opposed to logic. This is where much of their drama comes from. This is where misinterpretation comes from. What we say is misinterpreted, because the kids respond to emotion first, while we as the adult are trying to use logic. It's a skill that adults need to acquire if you want to be effective while coaching teens. What we say, how we say it, and how we stand while we say it is all up for interpretation.

When I was in high school, I was a gymnast. It's Olympic season and we've all been following our favorite athletes or sports. Gymnastics always brings back memories of how that although I was a fairly decent gymnast, I hated my body. Kids at school often said that my legs looked like a man and once in marching band, a staff member said that I didn't look like most girls. As an adult, I realize that his comment was meant as a compliment of my muscular build. As an adolescent, what I heard was that I wasn't feminine. When girls walk onto the playing field of the marching arts, they carry with them a lifetime of insecurity. How we talk to them and what we say, sets them up for success or failure. How we costume them and how we present that costume to them is crucial in how they will feel when they stand in front of a crowd or even more important...their peers at the football game and within the band itself.

Have you ever thought of that? Most girls are more self-conscious at the football games than they are at a competition. We as designers and directors costume for the competition, but the girls see a costume as something they have to stand in front of their peers in. Does it mean that you change the costume to fit the football crowd? Absolutely not. It means that you show that you have an awareness that the costume you put them in, will be seen by their friends and community in places that aren't necessarily as friendly as a band competition. They will be seen in that costume in parades, pep rallies, and of course football games.

The words we use are crucial. It's beyond important here in 2016, where we now know more about psychology and the human brain than ever before. I follow coaches of all types and in sports I don't even like. I like to learn how great coaches get their players to perform by what they say and even how they stand on the sidelines. Some of them I completely disagree with and I don't care if they are coaching an NFL linebacker or Major League pitcher. Berating, humiliating, and throwing tantrums are not just unprofessional, but completely ineffective. They are foolish. One of my favorite coaches comes from a sport that I actually despise. Just because I hate the sport, doesn't mean that the coach isn't brilliant. His name was John Wooden and coached basketball at UCLA and he once said that you need to find little ways to show your players that you care. "Small gestures make a big difference," he said. He won multiple NCAA titles, but his life as a coach was one of compassion. He created a pyramid called, The Pyramid of Success. When one of the best coaches of all time gives you a model to coach by, well then...you need to follow that model or at the least...study it. So I did and I do. The model he used is too much to take in and not my place to replicate in a blog post, but there are important takeaways. He believed in building cooperation, enthusiasm, team spirit, and confidence. 

Confidence. Think about it. How well do you build confidence in your performers? Really think about it, because we all can't be the greatest color guard coach of all time. Sometimes we are great designers, but terrible motivators. Some of us are great techs, but awful leaders. Some of the best pageantry coaches are the ones we've never seen or heard about, because they stay behind the scenes and let their performers do the speaking for them. Some only coach at the local level, because that's where they know they can make the biggest difference. Not everyone can be a great designer or technician and many aren't great leaders. They are all skills independent of one another and being great at one does not mean you are great at all three. 

So I write this today to ask you to look at your coaching style and ask yourself what your outside voice is telling the inside voice of your performers. Are they overweight? If so, it is most likely a given that they are concerned about costuming. They probably struggle with conditioning. How do you approach that? Are they tall and somewhat awkward? Are they they only gay male in your program? What about the one girl who doesn't have the same skin color as the rest of the guard? 

When was the last time you said these phrases?

Great job. It's getting better.

Let's come back tomorrow and get even better. 

I'm looking forward to seeing you tomorrow.

I care about you and what happens to you in your life.


What about the pat on the back? When was the last time you went to that one girl who is shy and uncomfortable in her body and walked up behind her on the field and said, "You are doing great. Keep it up." What about the girl who can't throw the toss with the rest of the guard or the one that learns her work slower than the rest? Have you told her that you see her trying or see her progress? By doing this we aren't building weak humans who can't handle life, we are building young adults who grow to become parents, professionals, and coaches who take our activity to the next level, filled with empathy and compassion. With each new generation we learn a little bit more about coaching. The stories of throwing music stands, rifles, and calling names sound barbaric and ridiculous in today's world. It's because we are growing and learning. We have more information today. We take from other sports and other coaches and learn. Do you remember how at one point Bobby Knight from IU threw chairs and tantrums and we as the public ate it up as if that was how you best reached kids? Now...well...it is frowned upon, because we all learn and really...who in the hell has ever responded out of fear over compassion? When I went to boot camp with the Navy I expected to be yelled and and cussed at, because that's what I thought happened. That's not what happened. The military learned that yelling and cussing does not create a better soldier and does nothing for retention. They changed and grew. 

I am not a colossal bitch and never was. I believed it, though. I look back and I wonder how that day influenced my teaching. I wonder how it impacted my self-esteem. I wonder if at any level it impacted my string of bad relationships, especially the one that hit me and the other one that told me I was a fat cow. I wonder what would have happened if someone on staff, just one person, had asked me how I felt about myself. If they had, they would have found out that at that point in my life I felt like I had an awkward body and that I didn't feel pretty enough around the other women I was performing with. They would have found out that I was a perfectionist and was very hard on myself for every drop and mistake and believed that I alone, created the drop in score based on my pathetic mistakes. These are things kids think about and getting to know who they are is where coaching is at and where it is headed. 

I sometimes want to call that instructor who called me a bitch and tell them that I can still hear the words in my head. I'm still haunted at times when I'm teaching others and am very aware of how I may be perceived by the kids I coach. However, I don't blame that staff member anymore than I blame myself for the stupid things I said when I was in my early years of my career. It's called being ill-equipped. We lacked mentors. We lacked the science of coaching. We lacked the knowledge of how the brain works. We weren't aware that men and women have different societal influences that create who we are on the inside, thus creating different performers. We didn't know. Now we do and there is no longer excuses for not bettering yourself.  I don't care if I'm liked by the kids I'm in front of, but I do care if I reach the kids and I do care if my words resonate with them at a deep and internal level that will ultimately make them better people. I do care that they know I care, even if I have to raise my voice for impact.

Today as you head out to the field to work with your young performers, what will your voice be?

Sunday, August 7, 2016

Sexual Predators and Our Youth Activity

Here's the elephant in the room. The question, the issue, the problem that none of us like to discuss. How many youth in the marching arts activity have been preyed upon by those who teach within the marching arts?

The answer is simple. We have no idea. We have no national data base of coaches, instructors, designers, or directors. Basically, we really don't know who is on the football fields and in the gyms around the country. We don't know where these people have taught or why many of them have left multiple programs in short time frames. We don't know how good they are and we don't have a mechanism of safety put in place for the reporting of suspected abuse. The answer we get when this is brought up is the phrase, "liability." We often are told that it's up to the local school districts to manage it. I understand this actually. I don't agree, but I understand. I guess then I wonder why other national organizations have these mechanisms in place. Why did they at least attempt the certification and identification process? As we start the Olympics, USA Gymnastics is on the front line of a scandal that has allowed abusive coaches to move from gym to gym, when USA Gymnastics knew of the abuse. Many will point to this case as to why we as the marching arts should not get into the business of policing the activity for abuse and coach certification. Why are we different? Well, we aren't different and mark my words, one day we will be on the front lines of this debate as other sports have been, because the more international we go, the more problems we will face and the more media attention we will get. Regardless of the answer, every one of us knows of the stories or even knows the person that preyed upon, got caught or is serving time for preying on the youth that trusted us most. Some of us have been around long enough to know first hand the skeletons of the pageantry closet.

This post is an attempt to address what has not been addressed at the national level in a public forum. It's the conversations we hear through the internet and text messages that start with,

"Did you hear about such and such?"
"No. What happened."
"Got caught sexting a girl in the guard."
"Wow. Eye roll."

Here are the stats from the U.S. Department of Justice

An estimated 60% of perpetrators of sexual abuse are known to the child but are not family members

It is estimated that one in every five girls and one in every seven boys are sexually abused by the time they reach adulthood

Only 30% of all sexual abuse crimes are reported 

15% of cell-owning teens (12–17) say they have received sexually suggestive nude/semi-nude images of someone they know via text

According to the Bureau of Justice Statistics’ National Criminal Victimization Survey, in 2012, there were 346,830 reported rapes or sexual assaults of persons 12 years or older.

Youth activities and sports are a breeding ground for sexual predators. For a predator to flourish, they must be able to gain trust of not just the youth victim, but their parents as well. They need access to the youth out of sight of other adults such as "voluntary practices," locker rooms, travelling, and special events off of school grounds such as after game gatherings. Predators know that most parents can't attend all events and will use that concept to their advantage. Sound like marching band?? Sound like winter guard?? 

Predators know that when children participate in competitive sports, their most trusted person is the coach. They know that the child seeks to please the coach through their performance. They know they are dealing with many hours together and the emotions run high. They know that the child longs to hear, "Great job today!" With that great job, comes a pat on the back, a hug, a whisper in the ear, a grope, or a fondle. It happens that fast and it's that easy. However, sexual predators are great at what they do. Chances are they have done it many times before. Predators are patient and methodical. They must first groom the victim, their family, and their community. They know what they are doing. 

So what is grooming?

Grooming is the art of slowly and deliberately gaining the trust of the child and family, so access of future time alone becomes very easy and difficult to monitor.

The whole purpose of grooming is so a coach earns trust. That trust then makes it difficult for the victim to report. If the victim reports, then they are told they will let the team down. The team in turn, blames the victim. When the trust is gained, the victim can believe they are actually in love with the coach. This allows the defense on the side of the predator to say that it was equal consent and although that's a weak defense and won't hold up in court in most places, it's still used. The grooming process can be so sophisticated that the adult parents of the victim or adult parents of other team members can start to believe the coach over the victim, thus leading to victim blaming and victim shaming.

"He's such a great coach. Everyone loves him. She must be lying."
"She is an amazing person and coach. This has never happened before."
"The victim was angry he didn't get the quarterback position."
"The victim is provocative and started the relationship."
"The victim is just as guilty."

These are actual statements from parents of teams where the coach was ultimately found guilty of predator behavior.

The following steps are used quite often in the grooming process:

1. Target the victim
2. Gain their trust
3. Fill a need (offer a ride home, an ear to listen, money, etc.)
4. Make the relationship sexual
5. Gain control

They most likely will attempt to fill a need before anything else happens. 

"I'm here for you if you ever need to talk about your problems at home."
"Don't worry about the money. I'll take care of it."

Grooming is a slow process, but it's extremely effective and often, the staff around the offending coach can see it, if they are willing to admit what it is they are seeing. If you are on the guard or band staff with someone who is grooming, then look for these signs.

1. Are they often talking to the same kids privately?
2. Do they state that they "understand" the problems of the kids, thus isolating the rest of the staff from access and from managing personal issues with the kids?
3. Are they sitting on the bus with the kids or the same kids...alone? 
4. Do they frequently state that they alone make the program what it is?
5. Are you starting to see a divide in the team dynamics for no reason and then the offender decides that "they will handle it?"
6. Do you get the creeps when you think that a grown adult enjoys sitting next to, hanging out with, and talking to the kids at shows, after show dinners, and other events more than the adults on staff?
7. Are they finding reasons as to why the rules of the program don't apply in "this situation?"
"But her mother was going to be an hour late to pick her up. She needed a ride home."
8. Are they offering to pay for, buy things for, and come up with reasons as to why a certain performer all of a sudden has the money for a particular item?
9. Are they having private meetings with kids without the rest of the staff, insinuating that they alone can manage this issue, because..."it's a confidentiality thing."

Now be careful here. Any one of these above items in isolation does not mean you are dealing with a predator. It's the patterns you need to look for. It's also not o.k. if one of these things occur for you to not bring to the attention of the person committing the act that it looks bad and could harm the kids or program. Their behavior puts you at risk as well. 

In the victims, the predator will often find that the easiest child to abuse, is the one who has family problems, low self-esteem, disengaged parents. You will start to see victims who are often isolating themselves from the team and who knows just a little more about the coach in question than they should. In these victims depression can set in. They may start to miss practice. They may quit the team, but say it's for personal reasons. Sometimes the victims will drop hints to their teammates. However, make no mistake. Fear drives their behavior. Predators exist in a world of power and control and that power can be intoxicating for the kids and even more so if the coach is successful competitively.

So what can you do? How do you protect the kids, the program, and yourself?
  1. Don't be alone with the kids behind closed doors without another staff member present. 
  2. Don't be afraid to have a parent or two at every one of your practices.
  3. During costume fittings, there is no need for you to be in the dressing room. Let them come out fully clothed and make sure all fittings have another adult present, especially if you will be touching the child.
  4. Report suspicious behavior. I don't care if they are your best friend from high school. A predator needs to be gone and brought to the attention of the authorities as soon as possible. 
  5. Know that if you feel that you cannot go to your direct superior, who is most likely the band director, report anyway. Let the police deal with it from there. This is difficult, but the victim of abuse will spend a lifetime recovering and you might have just saved other children from similar abuse.
  6. Document the behaviors that you find suspicious.
  7. Be vocal and insist that the staff follow the rules of practical boundaries and already set program guidelines.
  8. Don't text the kids. Don't text the kids. Don't text the kids. Don't text the kids. DON'T TEXT THE KIDS!  Find a different way. Just do. Text messages can go awry very fast and be misinterpreted for its intent.
  9. Find public ways to communicate electronically and make sure the parents know how that communication would take place. Additionally, once that method of communication is chosen, stick with it and make sure all staff follow that method of communication.
  10. If you are going to hire someone, check references. Physically get on the phone and check references. Do your due diligence. In these reference checks, you might want to call a program they marched at, a program they taught, and a professional reference. Put a procedure in place for reference checks and make sure it is used consistently for all hired staff members. Oh...don't forget to ask for a resume'. 
  11. When hiring a new staff member, ask questions about continuing education. How are they bettering themselves as a coach? Do they have any other certifications? These questions are important as the more CE's a person has or certifications, means that other governing bodies have engaged this person, which gives them more visibility. Predators don't want visibility. 
Recently, someone mentioned to me that youth sports have a bad habit of "kicking the can down the road." What does that mean? It means that we often take this tone of, "As long as they are not here, I don't care where they are." So the person never got charged, but they were fired and maybe even investigated. Good.  However, "They are no longer at our program. Our kids are protected." What about the next group of kids that person works with, because they will work with another organization. The argument exists within the idea that "well we couldn't prove anything." Ok. Let's go with it. So, they were fired at your program. You certainly must have suspected something for that firing to take place. "Well, we just didn't ask them back." Well then, shame on you for putting the problem onto some other program to subject another group of kids to predator behavior. This is where HR departments come in handy. Use them if you can. Protect yourself. Protect the kids. Document everything.

So what can we do as a whole? What's the answer? I'll tell you this. Youth organizations around the world have been grappling with this and putting safeguards in place for years. The horrific and disgusting situation at Penn State put everyone on alert. Most organizations conduct background screenings. The problem with this however, is that most predators haven't been caught as of yet, so they won't show up on the check. It's still a good start, though. Other organizations such as the National Council of Youth Sports, to which I'm a member, attempt to push out information on how to run a safe youth program. Virtually every national sports organization is a member from USA Cheer to USA Volleyball and just about every sport in between. None of the marching arts are a part of this impressive list of national organizations, but yet they should be. It shows that we as an activity understand that we are a part of a larger world of youth activities. If you go on any national sports websites, most (not all), but most have a portal to their websites just for coaches. USA swimming for example certifies its coaches as members through maintaining a database that says that at a minimum the coaches have been background checked, CPR certified, and have taken a number of courses on safety and coaching techniques. I looked at the Field Hockey national site, which is a sport I know zero about, but could find what it takes to become a certified coach and if my child ever decides to play that sport, I as a parent can find that there are steps coaches have to take to gain certification as an approved coach.

Will this stop the predator behavior? No. What it does do, is show that we care and make it our priority to get these people who prey on the performers out of the activity. The larger problem is our failure to address it nationally as an on going dialog. At the minimum we can put out white papers on the topic. Why don't we have conferences like every other sport once a year or once ever two years? Regionally? Why? And no...Spin Fest doesn't count unless it is turned into a half spin and half research based, speaker based, information based environment where coaches, kids, parents, administration, and vendors have an opportunity to present information that impacts the children on the whole from the standpoint of research, statistics, and best practices. 

If at any level you doubt anything I've said or feel defensive or challenged, then just Google the phrases, 

"Youth Coach fired for..." 
"Band director charged with..."
"Color Guard instructor charged in case involving..."
"Youth coach caught on tape..."

The list of pages goes on and on and on.

I've been training nationally on this topic for years and without a doubt someone always tries debate me. One of the most common arguments lie within the concept of, "How do you know that person isn't innocent? Aren't we innocent until proven guilty?" I always answer the same way.

"No you aren't innocent within the eyes of the press and social media platforms. Do you really want to test this theory while your face or the face of your program lies scrutinized on the front page of your local newspaper?" I then end with this, "Which is more important your friends and colleagues or the child you are responsible for and integrity of your program?" 

If you struggle with this answer, then maybe you should contact the ghost of Joe Paterno and ask him the question.  

For information about how to protect yourself, the Marching Roundtable has released a number of podcasts that discuss boundaries, ethics, and instructor insecurities. There is also a new Mentoring site for those looking to be mentored and soon, will come and ethics course. Knowledge is power and we shouldn't fear it, nor should we run from it. Making our activity safe is an undertaking, but it's a necessary undertaking, because it will catch up to us. It always does. 



Sunday, July 31, 2016

Drum Corps and My Late Night Jim Croce Album

This is for my Atlanta friend. 

I have an old Jim Croce album I found in a back alley record store years ago and sometimes late at night, I pour myself a glass of wine, turn the lights down, and play that old album, while enjoying the peace it brings me to hear the honesty of the guitar played through each crackle of the needle to the record. If it were up to me, everyone would have an old Jim Croce record so for a brief moment, we could all feel something besides anger. If you close your eyes you can hear the words that are untarnished by technology and media. You can see him sitting on a couch somewhere in solitude playing his guitar and singing, "There never seems to be enough time to do the things we want to do once we find them." Jim Croce's music is music that makes you feel something. He speaks to love and life. His words are simple, but they aren't ordinary. If you let him, he reaches into your heart and speaks to your soul.

I just returned from my yearly trek to Atlanta. It's the one drum corps show I get to see every year and I always come away from it with something I need to say. Maybe it's the inspiration from the shows or maybe it's the lifelong friendships or maybe it's the memories I hold dear from days gone by. I'm not sure what it is, but each year I certainly feel poetic after that show. When it comes to drum corps, I don't follow along like others do all season. I like to watch the shows with a fresh perspective, untainted by others opinions. This year though, I was fortunate enough to see the shows in Nashville the night before Atlanta. I took my nine year old son and 69 year old mother. It's refreshing to sit with people who don't know "the sheets" or know the history of the corps. My mom gets to see about one drum corps show every eight or so years and my son...well this was his first. He's been to WGI and countless winter guard and band shows, but this was his first summer show. If you ever want to see the activity in its purest form, watch it with a nine year old. What a nine year old sees is very different than what we see. A nine year old has an opinion that is natural and based on feeling, as opposed to intellect, but don't be mistaken in that. A child forms opinions and can speak to concept and costume. They just respond by emotion first and intellect second. A nine year old see's drum corps with their soul before their brain. It's how Robin Williams encouraged us to view poetry in the Dead Poets Society. Throughout the show, my son shared his opinions through his immediate reaction to the moment. He didn't analyze the guard work or technicality of the percussion. He could have cared less about transitional moments. He just simply enjoyed the shows for what they were and he found that he had some favorites and some not so favorites. He loved...LOVED...the Blue Devils. That shocked me and I'll tell you why in a second. His second favorite was the Madison Scouts. After they finished, he turned to me and said, "Wow mama! Wow! That was loud!!" I asked him if they were his favorite and he said, "Oh no. I liked the Blue Devils the best." I asked him why and he said that they looked like a Broadway play. He said they were weird. He said that they were fun. Those were his reasons and then he said that he wanted a tee shirt.

I really liked the Blue Devils, but more so on an intellectual level. I spent their entire show analyzing it and to be honest, I didn't get it 100% in its intent and I don't really know anyone else who did either. Josh however, didn't care. He didn't try to get it. He just simply experienced it. Driving to Atlanta the next day I realized that is what most of us old timers do. We analyze the shows until the very essence of art is sucked out of them. I don't completely blame us...the audience that is. For so long at the national level with WGI, BOA, and DCI...so many teams force us into intellectualism over emotionalism. That's blatantly clear at Independent World Finals for WGI. The books and shows have become so "artistic" that many times the designer has forgotten that art is supposed to move us. Art should make us feel something. As human beings we want to feel something. Human beings want to laugh. We want to cry. We need to cry. Reflection and the need to reflect is another human emotion we don't always give enough credit to. Anger and love. Sadness and happiness. That's what art is ultimately supposed to do. It is to make us feel. Our need to express gets suppressed so often by a world asking us to think way too much.

When I left Nashville for Atlanta, I hadn't really formed an opinion on any of the shows. I would wait for Atlanta to do that. I thought about Josh on the way up and his reaction reminded me of my Jim Croce album. Jim sings a song called Operator. It's one of those songs that everyone with any human soul can say they have experienced. He was left by the one he loved and calls to speak to her, but decides that he's better off without her.

Operator, well could you help me place this call
'Cause I can't read the number that you just gave me
There's something in my eyes
You know it happens every time
I think about the love that I thought would save me



Oh my those lyrics. Who hasn't wanted to have Jim Croce playing that on guitar in the background while we laid in bed at night crying our eyes out over the love we lost to another? The lyrics. The guitar. It makes me reflect. It makes my eyes water. You see, when we listen to music in the silence of our homes, we let it wash over us like the ocean Josh saw with the Blue Devils. I decided that when I got to Atlanta I wouldn't analyze anything. I would watch the shows in the way I listen to Jim Croce or the way a nine year old experiences music. I was either going to like it or not. I was going to absorb the colors and engage in the sound. I would analyze nothing. Ironically, I found that little experiment was harder than I thought it would be, but as the night went on I got better at it. When I did that, I found that my favorite drum corps were not necessarily in the top 5. I let the Academy make me laugh. I let the Blue Coats take me to what I saw as the coolest playground ever. I experienced a western shoot out with Crown. I listened to the Scouts in a way that made my son say, "Wow!" At times I closed my eyes and just listened. 

When the night was over, I found that I didn't really know who did what in terms of guard work or the best drill. I didn't care. To be honest, once I let go of the idea that the corps have become so homogenous to the point identity is no longer a driving factor for many, I was able to relax. Once I decided to not judge, but enjoy...I found the art inside the intellect. I found that my favorite corps was not first or second or even third. It was Santa Clara. Oh my how I loved that show. The word I used at the time was "lovely." It was simply lovely. They did a show that was somewhat simplistic in concept, but in no way simple in its presentation of the four seasons. That concept has been done...and done...and done...and done. They however, had a way of conceptualizing it so it made you feel something special as the seasons moved from spring to summer and summer to fall, but you had to let the seasons happen, just like the leaves change and fall from the trees in the autumn.  I barely even acknowledged Santa Clara the night before. The night before they were just a show about the seasons. In Atlanta, I saw art and I saw it in the form my nine year old son saw it. As I watched the show, I thought of the many seasons I've spent in Atlanta with WGI, BOA, and DCI. The before show drinks and after show conversations are many. I thought about how many performances were held in that dome and how many people missed the artistry being presented, but I also thought of the moments designers missed to move an audience, because their version of art is hidden within ego and competitive drive. I will certainly admit that I've missed a moment or two, because of my need to "judge" the teams surpassed the need to feel. I thought of my friends and the special moments we've had in Atlanta at the Omni and through conversations in parking lots around the dome. I thought of the thousands upon thousands of kids that have walked into that dome as an artist, but left the audience feeling let down as we couldn't get out of our own way as an activity and just let them be the art. I thought of the times when I dropped my guard and let myself just feel love through the friends I hold so dear. It's the same love I have in my old music albums that take me into a realm devoid of politics, intellectualism, and the weight of all that is wrong in the world.

I attend a lot of concerts and plays. I have a ritual in the moments leading up to every event. I drink a glass of wine, listen to the music of the band, read about the play, or listen to an interview with the artist. I try to get in a mindset of art. I love art. Being originally from Music City, I especially love music in all of its forms. I let it flow over me like Josh let drum corps flow over him Friday night. So, I can't help but wonder what happens to us that doesn't let us enjoy the art of pageantry. We all admit we appreciate it. We value it. We see it,  but I'm not sure many of us truly see it for art that makes us feel. While sitting in the dome, I wondered what the placements would be if a poet was the only judge and the only criteria read, "Make the audience feel." I wondered who would win. I wondered how the poet would rank and rate. My guess, is that the poet would throw out the rating, throw out the ranking, and just enjoy the night. She would come home and write verse upon verse of her experience. She would put on some Jim Croce and let the night speak from soul to paper, without thought. She might hear him sing, Walkin' Back to Georgia.

I'm walkin' back to Georgia
She's the only one who knows
How it feels when you lose a dream
And how it feels when you dream alone

She might come home and think about an old friend or two and look back on the trip as the sheer joy it was with all of its laughs, conversation, and love for something that has been a part of her life since she was 14. She would think of the community she is a part of. She would think of how it has made her a better person, because the art made her feel as in this classic verse that will stand the test of time.

If I had a box full of wishes and dreams that had never come true. The box would be empty, except for the memory of how they were answered by you.

I write this for all of us out there who crave to feel, crave to love, crave to touch, and crave to be human.



Sunday, July 24, 2016

A Young Woman's Body Image--A Basic Primer for Guard Instructors


I remember every player-every single one-who wore the Tennessee orange, a shade that our rivals hate, a bold, aggravating color that you can usually find on a roadside crew, "or in a correctional institution," as my friend Wendy Larry jokes. But to us the color is a flag of pride, because it identifies us as Lady Vols and therefore as women of an unmistakable type. Fighters. I remember how many of them fought for a better life for themselves. I just met them halfway.--Pat Summit

It's band camp time. Thousands upon thousands of kids across America are taking to the marching band field for the very first time. Those in the color guard are holding this odd thing called a flag pole. Many are stretching and finding muscles they never knew existed for the first time in their young lives. Others have never taken a dance class...much less been asked to leap, jump, and move across the floor with grace. Most of these kids who make up the color guard are girls. They are young women who just a couple to three years ago got their first period. Their breasts are still developing. Here are some other things you should know and consider, before the first ensemble drop spin is  even attempted.

  • In 2008, the CDC reported that 36% of high school girls reported strong and persistent feelings of sadness and hopelessness in the past year. 19% seriously considered suicide, 13% made a suicide plan, and 9% actually tried to kill themselves.
  • Female athletes experience concussions differently and take longer to recover
  • By the age of 5, children have absorbed a cultural bias against overweight people and females take the brunt of this bias (Musher-Eizenmean, 2003)
  • The media is a multi-billion dollar industry aimed at shaming women into being unrealistically thin, unrealistically beautiful and unrealistically super human.
  • The CDC reports that approximately 17% of adolescents are overweight or obese and the lower the income, the higher rate of obesity.
Finally...

Did you know that according the the Geena Davis Institute for Women in Media, only 31% of all speaking roles go to women? Only 23% of all films feature a female protagonist. Only 23% of all action films have females speaking in the films and almost all of action films have set the male up as the hero. This is why movies such as the new Ghostbusters and Wonder Woman is so freaking important. This is why the movie Frozen was so groundbreaking. She chose her sister over a man. She was not an evil queen and she empowered herself to use her internal strength. Oh and one more thing. Women highlighted in sports in the movies and on ESPN are less than 4%. Less than 4. Freaking. Percent! Intelligent women who are portrayed strictly for their talent and brain are visually hard to come by on television and in the movies.

Why is this important? Why did I start with it? Because, by the time you get these girls to spin their first drop spin, most of them are dealing with some sort of self-esteem, body image, or inferiority complex that you can never see, they might not even be aware of and it goes back to the beginning of time. We as women have a long history in this world of subjugation that we are just now coming out of. In fact, our right to vote is still less than 100 years old. 

When you coach a female you have a responsibility to them as women. Now this is no different than any youth you may coach. Males are just as important, but for this post we are talking about females, because females make up the majority of all high school color guards in this country. Without any proper data on the pageantry arts, it is probably the single largest sport for girls in the country. I have and many of those I know, have taken immense pride in our activity that we...for the most part...take the girls that many won't, because we take all shapes and sizes. We give them a shot at the 50 yard line solo. 

So here's the problem. When you coach a guard with the pure intent of designing a show and getting a score, then you lose the reason the girls need us the most. When your focus is only on the design of your amazing costume, then you may forget to design to body image. When you put your emphasis on design over proper training and conditioning, then your females lose out on possibly the one opportunity life has given them to pull themselves out of this pit of hell called the objectification of the female body. When your single goal in life is to choreograph equipment phrasing better than Crown...(well first of all good luck with that), then you have made it about you and not them. Here is something else. Teenage girls are not you. They do not have the wrist strength of a man or self esteem of a developed woman of power. How you speak to them and build their sense of self is more important to those girls than your costume design. How you condition them...if you even do...not just builds their strength to achieve your not so good Crown Guard rip off show, but helps them respect the health of the body for life. YOU are building life long habits. You yes you! It is not just that early is on time and on time is late. Their self esteem and health will be with them until the day they die.

Does this mean that we don't push them to be better every day? Absolutely not. Have you ever heard of the sandwich approach? This is a phrase coined by Dr. Robert Smith that states that when we make a correction, we will get better results by commending the effort first, addressing the technical mistake second, and encouraging future progress third. This technique is not just an idea. It is a well researched method of coaching that yields higher results in performance than just yelling. Athletes and performers are waiting for the negative comment, but what makes this method effective, is that most athletes are already beating themselves up for the mistake. They are mad at themselves for not performing up to par, letting the team down, and most importantly letting the coach down. So why beat them up again? A compliment on effort goes a long way to building the trust in themselves to try something new. Remember, if the stats are right and these young women are walking into your program doubting themselves, then basic psychology would naturally dictate that the emphasis on the positive effort is more effective than the negative.

"Oh but Shelba...kids today are so soft. Back in my day our coaches carried pistols and shot our hands off if we dropped." Oh, but reader...keep an open mind to science and psychology and try not to scream, "Get off my lawn to the kids on Halloween."

Here's something else to think about. Women have had their bodies objectified by the media, men, and even other women all of their lives. "You aren't thin enough. You're too athletic. You're too fat. You're hair isn't blonde enough. Your skin isn't soft enough. Look at your body. It's so sexy. Your breasts are so supple. Your ass is so round. Your ass isn't round enough." Think about the messages these girls have been seeing and hearing their entire lives.

"Here little Suzy. Here's your first Barbie Doll. Oh and by the way...don't forget that you will NEVER, EVER look like her."


"Oh look at how beautiful your daughter is dad. You're going to have to lock her in the house until she's thirty." 

The messages are real and they have detrimental impacts. When girls stretch in front of their male staff for the first time in their lives in a second position, with their legs wide open...it matters. When we have them bend over to stretch out in front of the band...it matters. When we put them on the ground to work leg stretches, while their legs are in the air...it matters. When we put them in uniforms that are too tight...it matters. IT MATTERS and there are easy fixes, such as how we ask them to dress in rehearsal. Some girls need more time to anesthetize or get comfortable with the idea of a second position stretch. Some need more time to acclimate to a world where showing skin in a rehearsal setting is common. Also remember, at least one of your girls if not two by statistics, state they have been date raped. Giving an option of rehearsal attire that covers the top parts of the legs around the thigh area helps in the acclimation process. Some of your young women may have never worn a sports bra and need encouragement to wear one, because all women participating in high impact sports should be wearing breast protection. It helps in their becoming comfortable with their growing chest and reduces soreness after practice. Only a woman can truly know this, hence the reason for this blog post. And one more thing...when costuming girls, please think of the large breasted girls. Fashion designers screw this up all the time. Most of us simply are NOT a B cup with a tiny waist.

Finally, I would like you the reader, the coach, the director, the designer who is reading this to consider how you approach punishment in terms of exercise. We need girls in this world to exercise for life. We need them to love exercise as to cut down on a number of diseases such as diabetes, breast cancer, and high blood pressure. Exercise for conditioning and health is a much better approach than exercise for punishment..not to mention that if you yourself are overweight, eating french fries and barking orders from a tower...all you are doing is building a guard that doesn't trust you. Put the fries down and pick up an orange and tell them to do the same damn thing. 

When I coach I have a simple philosophy. It took me years to grow this philosophy. I had to go through the yelling phase, ego phase, and arrogance phase. I'm now in the "leadership" phase. I want to lead them to lead others. I want them to love who they are, because it took me way too long to love myself. Sometimes it takes domestic violence, sexism in the workplace, and being called a bitch, cunt, whore, and tyrant to come to the realization that you are none of those things. I am and you are a strong, powerful, unstoppable, and once in a lifetime woman. My philosophy is to build young women who know who they are faster than I ever did, so finding that man who hits and berates them is not even an option in their lifetime.

Coaching women is an undertaking that if done right can build leaders of our country. Standing in front of them is an awesome responsibility and part of that responsibility is the undoing of generations of women being told they aren't good enough. It is your job to say, "You are good enough. You are a leader. You will make it. I believe in you."

NOTE:

The Marching Roundtable is producing a series of podcasts focused specifically on how to coach young women. They are also putting in place a mentoring program and diversity program. I encourage you to check out their site to sign up here to mentor young women or men, so we can start building coaches, directors, and designers who know the how of the young people and not just the what.